My coaching book

”Connect with your feminine body” will tackle the 7 female developmental stages and how to resolve the psychosomatic blockages in each of them. It is a workbook on Femindipity, my 7-step healing method I use in my coaching.

*Read the story of how I changed my incredible career into an even more amazing one, so I can use my full potential and serve my life-purpose: helping people.

**The official webiste launches in November 2019 and anybody can contact me and join my online programme.

Why did I switch to coaching?

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Working daily with female patients as a gynecologist in Germany, I have come across women who have dealt with PAIN and LOSS in all areas and stages of life. After listening to their stories, I realised they would profit more from a holistic therapy than the usual treatment.

The majority of my patients needed a FRIEND not a DOCTOR. They needed a TALK more than a DRUG.

You see, women have a high threshold for pain, so, if there is no biological reason to be found, it doesn’t mean that we should stop searching. Every symptom, no matter how ridiculous, needs to be taken seriously. Pain can have a psychological cause and our minds won’t be healed by a pill, here and there. Physicians are prescribing antidepressants like candy only because they are overwhelmed and clueless themselves! Time and patience are the cure!

That was my AHA moment. If I wanted to really help people, I had to change my approach. I had to make them look for healing in themselves and not project a false *SAVIOR* label on a drug.

So I became a coach.

Working with DESPAIR, FEAR and POWERLESSNESS

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I am a well-known and appreciated medical professional after starting a medical blog in my birth-country, Romania, BECAUSE I have a different approach. Honestly, I was unaware of my particularity when I started this project. Now, my Facebook group Femei de la A la Z (Women from A to Z) already has over 15.000 members and my website http://www.drlaurastirbu.com is accesed daily by hundreds of users who specifically seek another type of guidance.

I am not bragging. I am showing you another platform I use to help women. 3 years of online volunteer work with thousands of women have contributed to me understanding the fine psychological patterns of women in need.

My methods have been praised by my followers and I even had shocking propositions.

Some women popped out of the blue online and thanked me for all my indirect support during their pregnancy, which led to them enjoying 9 months of bliss and a carefree labor.

I even have had women who said they would pay 5000 Euros just to come and deliver their baby with me – meaning they would travel from Romania to Germany just to be with me (unrealistic because of birocracy, of course). I have had women who wrote me long e-mails about their pain and how nobody was there for them emotionally, except me. All of them were strangers who watched my LIVE videos and read my blog. All contacts were unsolicited.

No pill can fix these women. What is bothering them is in their heads – different nuances of insecurity. They need sympathy; understanding; guidance. They need an emotional life coach.

I have had hospital patients asking me if I also take private patients before, but I did not realise back then why they felt the need to change physicians. Like I said, I was unaware of the special gift I instinctively had. Luckly my patients 6th sense picked that up and reasured me that I was contibuting with something amazing to the world.

All of the women I have treated one way or the other have helped me unearth my true potential and redefine my life-purpose. They helped me realise that my place is not on a hospital ward, treating a new patient every 5 minutes. I really want to help people change their lives! Somehow ironically, my patients saved me.

After this realisation, came the most difficult part: how could I help more women overcome these emotional blockages and finally live a more fullfilled life? How could I do it more efficiently? I knew I had to go big and get my new findings out there, on the biggest platform there is: the internet. I structured all my knowledge and I developed Femindipity – the base for all my future projects on self-development: podcast, webinars, training videos, speaking events.


Developing FEMINDIPITY

Femindipity is my introspective-fuelled call-to-action method, which helps women reclaim their feminine energy and use it to upgrade their happiness.

My passion for helping my patients as a WHOLE and not as CASES has been my motivation to pursue an intensive research into my field, in order to develop new therapeutical strategies. I observed, talked to and privately counseled many women to test my theories and break down the medical language into words they can relate to. I started out with just a couple of strategies, which were fast and to the point. I did this online and also directly with my patients. Their heartfelt gratitude let me know I was on the right track. (I will detail my process in the up-coming book).

I could not put into words, untill somebody else said it:

”You can really talk to women!”

That is my Gift to the world. My Empathy, my Will to help, my Experience with so many different women who came into contact with me when they were at their lowest.

It took me a while till I gathered the courage to take the first step and sit down in front of a paper with a pen in my hand, in order to write the basics of my method. I did not think that I can do it, that I can develop something than can change the world. But I knew I owed it to all of those women in need to offer some clarity in their emotional chaos.

Femindipity has become my signature standardized method, in which I tackle the milestones in each of the developmental stages of a woman and how to deal with unresolved issues. Therefore it is specifically designed for women and it is centered around the most powerfull energy source women possess, but which has been wrongfully neglected: their femininity.

I grouped all of the knowledge into 3 simple worksheets: 7 developmental stages, 7 milestones and 7 healing steps. It is very flexible and even though I focus mainly on femininity, the method can be extrapolated in all areas of life. Theoretically, everybody can use it to solve every problem that occurs, in which introspection is required.

This 7-step method will also be detailed into a book, as per request of one of the lead female-empowerment speakers worldwide (accreditations in the book). The project will be released in 2020.

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A false femininity is being imposed on us since birth and that influences our perception of life more than we women have ever thought. Once we accept our true, organic femininity, then we can grow into the real and strong version of ourselves.


I am excited about this project and the impact it will have on the world! I am already getting amazing feedback from other people envolved, being informed about the succesful life changes my clients have achieved after just a couple of coaching sessions.


Join the NEWSLETTER to be informed about the Book progress!

For Connect with your feminine body, I will be conducting interviews with many experts in various fields, ALL driven women, who have made it their purpose in life to help other women with their particular skills. I am very excited that they have agreed to support this project and share their wisdom. They will each contribute with a detailed article on a particular topic on this website, but it is yet to be discussed if their personal stories – I am sure some will be very intimate – will be mentioned anonymously. These stories add to the value of the book+Contact me if you feel you could contribute as well! I am certain that there is an amazing story in each and any one of you! All you have to fill out is a questionaire or have a live-interview with me, personally.

VLV fantasy series

My dear English readers,

I finished my first Fantasy novel (my first ever finished novel) on the same January day in 2007 as J.K. Rowling finished Harry Potter and the Deathly Hollows.  And, purely coincidental, my lauch was exactly JKR’s publication day too: 26th June.

I am talking about the first book of the fantasy series called ”The Viscount of the lost Verentia” (VLV for short, or VVP, as in Romanian). ”The Light of Trodheim” is 300 pages long (June 2018) and it introduces all of us to the world of United Wallachia. The story continues in the 2nd book, ”The Children from the Mist” (November 2018). Book 3, ”The Queens’s Army” came out September 2019. The first book has been translated into English and has been sent to agents in The UK, USA and Canada.

The series is being promoted as a medieval fantasy with strong Romanian influences, where adventure mixes with politics and reveals decades of secrets. Less Dracula, more dragons, and a bunch of assertive female warriors! Join the ranks!

BLURB: 10 years have passed since the Revolution that brought the Wallachian counties together. There is peace in United Wallachia, but that is about to change. A mad criminal escapes from prison, mystical creatures roam the land and the capital is full of enemies of the crown. It is up to a 10-year old peasant and a teenage Dragon-Flyeress to assure their country’s stability.

Join the NEWSLETTER for updates about the book! If you love fantasy, then this is going to be one of your favorite series!

SPLIT – a crime serieS

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”Split” is a modern psychological thriller trilogy centered around an excentric psychiatrist and one of her new patients, a war veteran working for Scotland Yard.

Dr. Isabela Richter is a world-renowned psychiatrist in London, but little do people know that she herself is her most challenging patient. When the director of the MI6 entrusts her with the mental care of a detective injured in the line of duty, her techniques clash with his overall noncompliance. It is the cooperation outside of the therapy office, while working on multiple police cases, what strengthens their relationship, as they unravel not only the identitity of the criminals, but also the secrets to their own past.

Join the Newsletter to get caught up with the latest developments and contact the author for a FREE sample containing the first 3 chapters.

NICE TO KNOW: the books were based on a screenplay written as a drama mini-series, which has gotten positive feedback from various writing competitions. The script benefited from a Table Read with professional actors and got notes from experienced screenwriters at the London Screenwriter’s Festival 2018.

Vol 1.
The broken clock

– the case of the fraudulent billionaire. A billionaire has allegedly been accused of fraud – with incontestable proof. Det. Silverman takes on the role of the devil’s advocate, hoping that a win would convince his mother to fully reinstate him and release him from his obligations with his therapist.

VOL 2.
The bloody trenchcoat

– the case of the mother-killer. A psychiatric patient is found holding the murder weapon next to his dead mother. This time, it is Dr. Richter who cannot accept the overwhelming evidence. Having to admit that her own patient commited the crime under her supervision, would mean having to accept the flaws of her methods.

VOL 3.
The color killer

– the case of the serial-killer. A serie of gruesome murders lead back to Dr. Richter’s past and awaken her supressed memories. Det. Silverman and his team struggle to find the murderer, before Isabela becomes the next victim.

Planned: Vol. 4. The beloved apprentice (partial outline) and Vol. 5. The other woman (partial outline).

The first 2 books are being edited at the moment, WHILE BOOK 3 is still in screenplay-FORM and will be released after the complete trilogy is finished.

Yes, I do see Rupert Grint playing the cheeky, stubborned detective!

Georgiana’s review of „The Light of Trodheim”, book 1 of the VLV Series

I met Georgiana at the biggest bookfairs in Bucharest in 2018, and she bought both volumes with an autograph. Little did I know that she was an active blogger and that she would become a huge fan of the series. She wrote one of the few English reviews based on the Romanian books, which I hope you enjoy as much as I did. It is by far the most detailed opinion on not only the first book, but of the Wallachian Universe as a whole.

You can find Gergiana on Facebook, where she runs multiple writing groups: Book reviews by Georgiana

Stay tunned! The English version of VLV 1 is in the professional editing phase!

I hope Georgiana’s review will convince you to place ”The Light of Trodheim” on your TBR for next year!

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It’s the first book from “The Viscount of the Lost Verentia” written by Romanian author Laura Știrbu. The story focuses on ten-year-old Justinian Mojic’s adventures during his first year at one of the most prestigious school-fortresses in the United Wallachia, SanteVel and also on Lily Poison, a mysterious and rebellious senior. Things change when the news of a serial killer’s escape from the prison fortress Torun spreads throughout the land, while other events will make Justinian ask questions about himself and his past.

Laura Știrbu’s unique style consists in describing beautiful Romanian landscapes, thus inviting her readers to journey along her native country in which she added a pinch of mystery and fantasy. As we stroll along the United Wallachia, we may find Transylvanian influences (the school-fortresses from the mountains), Great Wallachia/ Wallachia-proper influences so as Dobrujan influences (e.g. Aquinox). The Romanian Educational System and the rules regarding the army and Police Academy were some of the writer’s sources of inspiration as the readers will notice in the Vel school-fortresses.

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The Romanian cover

The novel is a fantasy with a mixture of the “Harry Potter” series by J. K. Rowling, “Game of Thrones” by George R. R. Martin and J. R. R. Tolkien’s “The Lord of the Rings” and “The Hobbit” because it contains a few elements from all the novels mentioned earlier. Magic and potions (Harry Potter), decorative weapons and the fight to succeed to the throne (Game of Thrones), magical creatures, especially dragons and special characters (The Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit). The talented author also teaches us about friendship, loyalty, courage, truth, virtues and sins, childhood (Justinian) and maturity (Lily), girl power (Lily, Madeline etc.), the conflict between religion and mythology and so on. Fantasy fans will get to discover all sorts of dragon species in Laura’s enchanting world.

Adventure, suspense, mystery and lots of dragons are the perfect words to describe this book.

Different things and events with a symbolic meaning are also present in the story. Things like: the raven (death), the sword (war), black and white (Yin and Yang), water (purity and higher wisdom) and tarot cards (specifically chosen by Madame Saprofira and Penelope Celestra) that will predict Justinian’s destiny.

The readers will learn about political and media manipulation, but also about the willpower which Justinian displays during the story. Laura makes references about the Coup d’état from 1989, the Great Union and other events from the Romanian History which you’ll discover on every page you read.

Together with J. R. R. Tolkien, C. S. Lewis, J. K. Rowling, Sophie-Audouin-Mamikonian, Richard H. Stephens, Laura Știrbu revolutionized the fantasy genre through the unique world she created, also proving that Romanian writers can reach the foreign writers’ level too.

I recomend this book to readers 14+ since there are scenes which are a bit scary and can’t be understood by younger readers.

FEMINDIPITY – MY COACHING METHOD

Laura S. Götz – life coach

I help women unearth their true self and use it to its full potential in order to lead a more fulfilled life.

My coaching method was developed on the premise that women, while fighting for equality, have adopted more and more masculine traits and that their femininity got lost along the way. This led to a pathological dissociation between their conscious and subconscious image of WHO they really are. Women living with this conflict have trouble reaching the level of fulfillness they deserve and are not even aware there is even a problem. What I get from them is often ”I am unhappy / or scared, but I don’t know WHY.”

For me it is very fulfilling to see other sisters bloom after our chats and workshops. Changing lives is why I chose this profession from the beggining!

During our work together, I will pass on both the knowledge that has been given on to me by my mentors and all of the valuable human information I have accumulated after years of observations while treating thousands of people from diverse backgrounds.

To make it all easier for both me as a mentor and my clients, I wrapped all the knowledge into a programme. Femindipity covers a 7-step healing method in each of the 7 developmental stages of a woman. It has had so much success with clinical patients, I decided to open it to the general public, to give every woman insight into this eye-opening method. YOU can choose to start from whichever stage you want, or have a look at it from the beginning. No matter what you do, you will find out that you have to go and grow through all of the stages in oder to heal as a whole!

Femindipity is life-coaching, dating-coaching, business-coaching, you name it! Once you discover who you really are and what drives you forward, you can tailor the Univers around YOUR needs. Take me as your guide on this path to discovery and be amazed at the incredible person waiting at the end!

Femindipity will make you awe at yourself – at what you truly are, what powers lie within and what you can do!

Curios for more? Book a FREE get-to-know session on the official website when it launches in November 2019.

Georgiana’s review of „The Children of the Mist”, book 2 of the VLV Series

I met Georgiana at the biggest bookfairs in Bucharest in 2018, and she bought both volumes with an autograph. Little did I know that she was an active blogger and that she would become a huge fan of the series. She wrote one of the few English reviews based on the Romanian books, which I hope you enjoy as much as I did. It is by far the most detailed opinion on not only the first two books, but of the Wallachian Universe as a whole.

You can find Gergiana on Facebook, where she runs multiple writing groups: Book reviews by Georgiana

Stay tunned! The English version of VLV 1 is in the professional editing phase!

I hope Georgiana’s review will convince you to place the VLV serie on your TBR for next year!

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Original Romanian Cover

 

Review for “The Children of the Mist” by Laura Știrbu

It’s the second book from “The Viscount of the Lost Verentia” written by Romanian author Laura Știrbu. The story focuses on Justinian Rascal’s second half of his first year at the prestigious school SanteVel. The boy is more determined to find out about his past due to the events from the first book.
The writer attracts her readers through her simple style that is easy to understand. The readers will be delighted to read the detailed descriptions of the landscapes and they will feel the characters’ emotions. The action from “The Children of the Mist” has a darker side and bring up subjects like: women’s rights, sexism, snobbishness, arrogance as in Damian Perfid’s case, the rivalry between social classes as it’s seen in the way the nobility and the SanteVel staff behave towards the peasants, jealousy and envy displayed by Lucian Lumiere upon finding out Justinian has a dragon and that he’s trained by Lily, the dirty games of politics and the need of a family like in Justinian’s, Lily’s and Boris’ cases.
Many truths will be revealed in this novel and the readers will also find more about the history of SanteVel, the holidays celebrated within the fortress and the Wallachians’ ancestors. At a close reading, the readers will discover a few sources of inspiration used by Laura from: Romanian history (e.g. Mihnea Viteazul who was inspired by Michael the Brave (Mihai Viteazul), the Romanian national hero who formed the Union of Wallachia, Moldavia and Transylvania in 1600), the Romanian Educational System, the Romanian Armed Forces (e. g. the strict rules the Fliers have to follow), the underground city discovered in Roșia Montană and the system of underground tunnels/ tombs discovered in Brăila.
Different things and events with a symbolic meaning are also present in the story. Things like: the snake – evil and temptation, the lion – ferocity, royalty, domination and power, the diamond – invincibility, power, clarity, ascension and wisdom, the storms that rage and rain that pour in almost the entire story represent the rough times that will come and the tears shed by some characters, the panther – the fierce and aggressive guardian, things seen in Lily Venom’s character and the mother figure, seeing that Lily cares about Justinian, but doesn’t show it to just anyone.
Another important subject is the antithesis between Justinian and Lily, which shows us the difference between Yin and Yang, good and evil, kind and aggressive, calm and energetic, and modest and tempting. There are some scenes that will remind the readers about childhood, teen years and becoming a responsible adult as they’ll see the seniors from the eight’s year do after graduation.
Dragons, mysteries, secret passages, friendship, loyalty, treason, love, slyness, temptation, tears to which a pinch of fantasy was added can be found in this fantastic novel.
Together with J. R. R. Tolkien, C. S. Lewis, J. K. Rowling, Sophie-Audouin-Mamikonian, Richard H. Stephens, Laura Știrbu revolutionized the fantasy genre through the unique world she created, also proving that Romanian writers can reach the foreign writers’ level too.
I recommend this book to readers 15+ since there are some scenes that are not age-appropriate for younger readers.

Insomnia

As soon as darkness fills the skies,

The demons in my head take pride

In the smoggy shredded capes they wear

And the sharpened rusty swords they bare.

They creep inside, towards my heart,

Down a soggy crooked path,

Where they gather into nests,

Like a pothole full of snakes.

My hands get shaky,

Bowels are squirming,

Eyes are weary,

Throat is burning

And my mouth opens so wide,

To let the daunting screams outside,

Before the lot of them ignite,

In my body full of fright.

The night is long,

my voice is loud,

tears are running to the ground,

Where my feet got stuck for ages.

No point in fleeing the disaster

Once the monsters have set up there.

The daylight shines, my cheeks are dry.

There are no more tears left to cry,

No words to shout, no move to make,

No demons to keep me awake.

The sheets await,

I lay to sleep,

My soul all drained,

But full of peace.

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A gracious way to …

There is something that I cannot deny –

Something horrid, dark and vile,

Trapped in a hidden corner

Inside my troubled mind.

 

It has a voice,

It has a spine,

It has two hands,

Which control mine.

 

I dare not shut one of my eyes,

Or It will grab me by surprise,

Drag me down that wretched road,

From which there’s no coming back no more.

 

My gaze is thrown upon that stool,

Upon that sturdy rope of wool,

A dangling latter to the sky,

A slow and gracious way to…

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Women's health professional. International speaker. Life coach. Author.